His Jealousy Game is Starting to Work

Crystal Asks:

One question.

There is this guy who is three years older than me, goes to my college and I can tell he likes me. I see immaturity.

But if he likes me, why has he been acting weird? It's complicated.

He's texting me almost everyday and wants to know what I'm doing and what I'm up to. He wants to constantly take me out for lunch. Yet, I can see that he acts weird as if he is jealous.  He asks me who I am texting when I was merely looking up music one day. I told him that I have to know someone very well for at least more than a year to see if there could be something more and he replied Hmm.. I think it's worth it.

Okay.. so I think he is a jerk because it seems he is playing games with me when he says, "I'm going to my friends house - she's my coworker" and texting me at 12:50 a.m. "Just got home." and so forth.  When I have turned him down softly because I had plans. Yet he still constantly keeps wanting to go out with me, I told him as "friends" and he told my girlfriend it was sort of a date. Eh... so much to say.

But I wanted to ask why is this guy playing? I believe he's trying to make me jealous because he is? It's weird though I've only met him five times. I don't know. But jealousy games don’t work with me they only piss me off and make me want him to stop talking to me. I'm not that type of girl that plays games.

What do you think of this situation?"

Nancy's Relationship Advice:

Dear Crystal,

It is not as complicated as you are making this out to be. You have described a guy who is an immature, jealous, possessive jerk who pursues multiple women.  Does this sound like a person you would recommend to a good friend?  Of course not - so simply stop texting this guy, stop replying to his texts and get a clearer idea of what you do want in a future relationship.  I assure you, when you take charge of the type of person you want to attract and treat yourself with dignity, then you will see a huge change in your social circle.

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